I knew it! I just friggin’ knew it! I knew that as soon as I resumed school, I would be busier than a one legged man in an ass kicking contest and more tired than a depressed, pregnant, migrating elephant.
As I’m writing this, my neck is hurting me and my eyes are heavier than Anthony Joshua’s punches. I am so pained and so tired that I might end up not talking about the topic that brought you here and I’ll just rant on and on about how most of school is a scam.
Thank you ASUU, thank you Nigerian universities, thank you lecturers who started giving me assignments on the first day of school. You’re the reason I’ve been eating as healthy as a tiger shark and getting as much rest as some comparison I wanted to make but can’t remember. Yes, I am that tired.
In all of this that I am feeling however, I am sure that there are multiples of other students and even working class people who feel the same way. I’m pretty sure school has probably been a lot of stress for you even if you’re just resuming. Your work too isn’t a tea party either so you cannot tell me that you can’t relate to any of the things that I’m talking about.
Maybe that’s why not a lot of people have checked up on me. They’ve probably been busy minding their own business or taking care of their own lives and trying to get their shit together. I’ll not talk about the pun I made with my friend a few hours ago with that last sentence that had me laughing in the middle of UNILAG streets like an idiot but I will talk about minding your own damn business.
A lot of the time, especially in African societies, many people cannot mind their own business. I remember one time a group of adults “ganged up on me”, trying to force me to cut my hair because it was too full and they thought it didn’t fit me. I had a pretty hard time trying to convince them that I’m cool with being ugly.
I have nothing against them trying to get me to cut my hair – besides the obvious that is – because to some extent, it showed that they actually did care about me. Trust me when I say that if a person who’s meant to care starts ignoring you when you’re wrong, you’re in trouble. My point here however is that they made it their obligation to look into and try to control a part of my life that was quite trivial if you really think about it and that was quite upsetting.
That is one of the many reasons I believe that people should mind their gatdam biznez.
But wait, the article can’t just end like that and in all honesty, that’s not exactly what I came here to talk to you about. If you’re close to me, you probably already know that my thinking is not the most straightforward or conventional. As such, you’ll understand why I am telling you to do the opposite of what the topic says.
See Also: Bad Vibes
Last week, I wrote a post and explained to you in as few words as possible why bad energy might be the best thing for you and I’m here to do something largely similar this week.
Just like the bad vibes that went viral and all, a lot of people have taken minding their own business to a whole new (wrong) level. Minding your own business, keeping to yourself and allowing everyone else to go through whatever it is they’re going through alone is not exactly the best, especially for those you claim to care about.
You’ll see your friend doing something that is obviously wrong but because you want to “mind your business” and “protect your mental health”, you won’t mention it to them. Instead, you’ll keep quiet about it and continue shining your yellow teeth with them and taking pictures where you’ll intentionally look away while they shoot you so you can post it with the caption “unaware”.
I feel that this is mostly wrong to be very honest. Whatever happened to caring about people and actually giving a (inserts cuss word)? Whatever happened to that? Like many of my “monologues”, I feel like I might not be making as much sense here but don’t get me wrong, I am not asking you to constantly butt into your friends’ and acquaintances’ businesses but every now and then, stop minding your business and check on them really.
No, I’m not done if you’re tired already. Your friend could be ill and on the verge of death (at least according to google results for every symptom you type in there.) Your friend might be going through depression and barely able to walk out of it while it consumes him or her slowly. Your friend – me in this case – might be craving some nice domino’s pizza but how will you know? How will you know if all you ever do is just stay on your own, mind your own business and just assume that “maybe they didn’t want to talk”?
Truth be told, not everyone wants your help and in those cases, it is fine to let them go. You cannot fix what doesn’t want to be fixed (or what isn’t broken). In several cases, you might also have been insulted for not minding your business but don’t let that discourage you. Tell them when they’re wrong, ask about them when they’re off. It’s not only when someone updates status that they should have friends.
I wrote this article without drafting it out first so it might be a bit rough but I really hope you get my point. Do not leave it to assumption and try as much as you possibly can to always check on your friends and even try to correct their wrong. Don’t be useless please.
Just Before I Exit…
- What do you think?
- What was that experience you that just made you want to tell the person to shut the heck up and mind their business?
- Don’t lie, you’re going to ignore this post and continue doing the way you’ve been doing before shey?
- Why would you do the above though? Someone hurt you when you tried to help?
- Don’t you think it’s a nice idea to tell someone about Irewole’s blog?