Keeping Up With the Dogonyaros

On the 14th of October, 2007, a show that quickly went viral premiered. They named it “Keeping up With the Kardashians”. It was essentially a reality show that was aimed at giving us an inside look into the lives of people we previously couldn’t care less about. It showed their glamorous lifestyles, their beauty, their flawless bodies and their ridiculously large amounts of money in assets and most notably, it showed how much they were “better” than us.

As for me, I am better than the rest in Jesus’ name. Amen fire!
Since that time, many other “shows” and subtle/obvious displays of superiority have popped up. There are the guys on social media who keep flaunting money that we can only guess their origin. Based on those unrealistic standards set by these guys, some girls have contributed to our singleness.
But don’t worry, I will have money too. My future is bright. I’m not even pained.
Apart from the fact that these guys are constantly showing off their money and all they can afford to buy with it, they also intentionally put down people who are not as financially buoyant as they are. Whenever a controversial issue pops up and the richer person is to blame, the first line of defence is stating how much more money they have than the other person and dragging his self-esteem in the mud.

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Then, there are the girls. Ahh… the beautiful, silicon, amazing, padded girls. These are the type who flaunt their body on social media. In real life, they go through absolute hell just to look pleasing but on social media, the pain is masked in mascara and a sexy looking two piece lingerie.
Boys see it and their hearts are immediately softened (unlike another part of their body).They set that beauty standard for girls they know and start body-shaming. Girls see it and want to become like that fine girl that their crush is dying for. So, they start starving themselves because as long as you have a perfect body, it doesn’t matter if you’re anorexic or if you have chronic ulcer. You sha have a perfect body.

I uh… I won’t say anything sha.
Let us call all these people Dogonyaro because we don’t have Kardashians in Nigeria and what we are trying to do is to keep up with them. The world today has driven us to excessively seek validation from others while pretending to be living for our own selves. So, we stress our bodies, endure emotional and mental torture, try to appear successful but make conscious effort to mask it so we don’t get tagged arrogant.We do this and do that just so that we can be like Dogonyaro; the rich, famous guy/girl that everyone likes and wants to have steamy coitus with. I used to be like that or maybe I still am. I remember walking into a meeting once and the coordinator jovially asked me to introduce myself and state my networth. There were a number of people there and I sincerely wanted to tell them how much was in my account, not because I believed he was serious but because I just wanted to be respected. This isn’t a bad thing, it’s a primal urge, a reflex. What is bad is your inability to control it. I ended up not telling them that day. One thing I also can’t say is how I went from there to the picture you see below.
This may or may not be my account balance…
In case you’ve not gotten the memo, what I am preaching against today is comparing yourselves excessively to others. For some, it is great motivation. It has no effect on their mental health. They’ll just see Dwayne Johnson in the morning and start doing push-ups and sit-ups.
I however cannot can.
For most, however, it has the opposite effect. They start trying to become “better”. They hurt themselves, overthink, compare, doubt themselves and set an unachievable standard. They keep jumping to reach a goal that is beyond them until they fall and break something.The truth is that the same way I’ll probably never have the patience to start and finish cooking a pot of beans, you’ll probably never be like those social media people. Their money isn’t always legal but your efforts are. Their body isn’t always what it seems. Some went through gruesome, expensive surgery to get what you are trying to reach just by reducing the amount of suya you eat. You can’t be like them. Love yourself and stop trying to be someone else.The one advice I have for you is to continue improving on yourself. Set goals and levels for you that you want to attain and for every new level you get to, set a new one. Be the standard that you’re always reaching for


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Conclusion

The online space we all share, while useful in a lot of areas isn’t always the best thing for our mental health. Guard your mind intelligently and don’t let yourself get sucked into all of these competition that would only end up leaving you sad and broken.

Anyway…

  • What do you think? This is a better option writing about my inability to cook eh?
  • What’s that thing that happens online that pisses you off?
  • Do you compare yourself? If yes, why?
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Hauwa
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Hauwa

absolutely loved this!

Temi🐲
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Temi🐲

Sensitive topic but you still crushed it SBB,,biko keep enjoying your suya,,you’re blessed

Mayowa
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Mayowa

It’s a great article to reckon. And I like the fact that you opined that some people might get better trying to keep up with others while some people might only get worse. #weldone

Hon. water
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Hon. water

😂😂😂😂…looool.. Na true talk tho..it may jxt come in a funny way..but then..I’m never disappointed wen I come here

Yours Sincerly Seniorita
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Yours Sincerly Seniorita

You wrote this article for me💙💙
We really need to love ourselves and not be deceived by what we see on the gram

Tolani
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Tolani

Great article Irewole.❤
I used to be like this before I realize that these “Dongoyaros” trying to encourage us to work harder are just a bit or exactly like an average salary earner trying to overcome the twist of life.

Akachi
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Akachi

Hiii, here you go again saving us from ignorance ( thanks sensei lol). Jokes apart tho, very good one. Will I say I used to compare my self maybe in the frequency of posts on social media not on the body or anything ( which weight am I supposed to to lose edakun😭😭😭). What really annoys me is when these ‘Dogonyaros’ try to write motivational speeches or something to encourage us to ‘work harder’, I’m like sis sit please, thank you.

Lola
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Lola

Keeping up with the Dongoyaros😂😂😂😂

DAMI Myne
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First of all. This was a really cool write up. You’re so creative. I was going to write on this. Maybe I’ll just come back here and comment the link when I’m done. These days, I legit have to shout at myself to leave Instagram so that I won’t get intimidated. Slay Queens everywhere on Instagram streets and we that currently live on brokelyn avenue cannot keep up with the dongoyaros. Sigh. I try not to compare myself with others these days. I just focus on myself and what I want and need not what he or she has. This… Read more »

CHIKE OKONGWU
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CHIKE OKONGWU

Great article. I really understood what you were trying to convey

Anjorin Molayo
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I used to be like this before I came to realize that everyone have their own race to run Ibeg… You can’t be like anyone but yourself. Trying to be like a celebrity or your friend is just a whole lot of stress. This is a very nice post Ire. It’s my first time on here and I’m already a fan. Keep it up 💪💪

Ayomide
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Ayomide

For me, I mostly see it as a motivation to do something for myself, not to be better than the “Dongoyaros”. It’s a really nice article.

Brown Exploitss
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Brown Exploitss

Thanks to you irewole, I cannot can because I cannot can. I was always comparing myself with other writers, if they could write a book, why not me? If they could write an article that attracts comments, why not me? Then I realized that everyone has his or her race to you. Don’t compare yourself with someone else, it led me into having low self esteem .. I’m 21 and for 19 to 20 years I’ve been comparing myself with people .. you see just one or two years of changes … You’re better the way you are. You should… Read more »

Munah_jay
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Munah_jay

Nice post… Sometimes I look at a celebrity picture online or in a magazine.. Then I would wish I had that kinda body, complexion etc… Sometimes I’ll try really hard to improve on some of my body parts.
But then I really don’t know the stress or pain they went to… You just gotta love who you are and appreciate yourself.

Eunice
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GUARD YOUR FREAKING MIND INTELLIGENTLY. i really like today’s post. Thank you. I always tell people it’s not always as it seems on SM. At a point in my life, I used to be conscious and worried about certain parts of my body and snide comments and seemingly funny ones about those parts from people didn’t help too. But as time went on and as I grew older, read and met people, I realise there is nothing else I can do to give me peace of mind but to love me. Self love is very important but it’s so sad… Read more »