In the very unlikely case that you are a time traveler from the fortieth (40th) century and you are very much unaccustomed to this shithole, I just wanna take the time out to welcome you to the twenty first century. Trust me, you’ll love it here.
A lot of us have emotional issues but we choose not to show it because we don’t want to appear weak. An even larger number (or possibly smaller) number of us enjoy glorifying the littlest achievements like managing not to sleep through a half hour class or being able to stay off junk food for twenty four hours. Another set of this generation takes absolute pleasure in appearing smart when in all honesty, they are more confused about the topic than a sperm cell after anal intercourse.
I could go on describing this generation to you, oh ye unlikely time traveler but that will take time. I however would be sinning against my conscience if I failed to mention that a lot of us are entitled.
By the way, did I say you’ll love it here? I lied. Even I hate it here. At this point though, I have to mention that I’m probably going to offend a number of people again with my “brutal honesty”.
Regardless of how you feel about that anyway, I will keep on talking about it – obviously. A number of weeks ago, I wrote a post titled bad vibes where I made reference to this topic but I feel I did not do enough justice to it.
In fairness to all of us, I think it’s safe to say that it isn’t entirely our fault. To a large and undeniable extent, a person is a product of the society and the environment he was born. In most cases, we sort of inherit our entitlement. I don’t mean we’re born with it, just that we are bred with it. This however does not change the fact that it is absolutely wrong and self-damaging as a matter of fact.
A few things I would like to say.
I’ll start with the simple ones and tell you that your boyfriend does not owe you money because he is your boyfriend and your girlfriend does not owe you her body either. You don’t deserve to be loved because you’re good looking. You don’t “deserve” respect because you are older than this/that person. This doesn’t mean that culture and tradition should be forgotten and children should go around insulting and disrespecting elders but still, nobody owes you anything.
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It isn’t limited to just people and human relations but life in general as well. A lot of the time, I see people saying things like “ I don’t deserve to be….” or “I deserve to…” and it just leaves me wondering what exactly they have done to deserve that thing they keep on whining incessantly about. You sit around all day being lazy and doing nothing financially productive but you don’t deserve to be broke? You are intentionally antisocial and you push away everyone who comes to you but you feel you deserve to be in a happy relationship?
Life itself does not owe you anything. It’s unfair and there’s really not much you can do about it if we’re being honest. You don’t deserve anything that you haven’t worked for and you sure as hell won’t get it if you keep sitting on your buttocks and not doing anything towards that thing you want.
I could keep going on and on about all of these but I get the feeling that you already have the basic idea of what I’m trying to say.
There are a number of ways you could take care of your entitlement though…
I think the first basic way to do that is to understand that no one owes you anything. Not your parents. Not your partner. Not those little kids who don’t call you senior grandmaster lord of the seven seas as a sign of respect. Not your boss at work. Literally nobody owes you anything that you have not worked for. You could whine about it all night and day but it would not change that basic fact and by continuously expecting them to give a crap, you’d only be hurting yourself.
The second thing you have to do is to actually let go.
You can’t hope to get rid of your entitlement if somewhere in your heart, you still want someone to do something for you because so so so. It’s one thing to understand the above and it’s another to make conscious effort to let go.
I’m not some mental expert and I can’t promise you that what I’ve said is foolproof but what I can promise is that it is a constant work in progress. Overriding your emotions isn’t the easiest thing to do and as a result, it’d be hard convincing yourself not to get mad about this or that but if you stay at it persistently and make conscious effort towards it, I can promise you that you’d be a step closer to achieving it.
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