Entitlement? Eww.

In the very unlikely case that you are a time traveler from the fortieth (40th) century and you are very much unaccustomed to this shithole, I just wanna take the time out to welcome you to the twenty first century. Trust me, you’ll love it here.

“Why” you might ask. Well…

A lot of us have emotional issues but we choose not to show it because we don’t want to appear weak. An even larger number (or possibly smaller) number of us enjoy glorifying the littlest achievements like managing not to sleep through a half hour class or being able to stay off junk food for twenty four hours. Another set of this generation takes absolute pleasure in appearing smart when in all honesty, they are more confused about the topic than a sperm cell after anal intercourse.

I could go on describing this generation to you, oh ye unlikely time traveler but that will take time. I however would be sinning against my conscience if I failed to mention that a lot of us are entitled.

By the way, did I say you’ll love it here? I lied. Even I hate it here. At this point though, I have to mention that I’m probably going to offend a number of people again with my “brutal honesty”.

Another wallet absolutely teeming with fucks

Regardless of how you feel about that anyway, I will keep on talking about it – obviously. A number of weeks ago, I wrote a post titled bad vibes where I made reference to this topic but I feel I did not do enough justice to it.

In fairness to all of us, I think it’s safe to say that it isn’t entirely our fault. To a large and undeniable extent, a person is a product of the society and the environment he was born. In most cases, we sort of inherit our entitlement. I don’t mean we’re born with it, just that we are bred with it. This however does not change the fact that it is absolutely wrong and self-damaging as a matter of fact.

A few things I would like to say.

I’ll start with the simple ones and tell you that your boyfriend does not owe you money because he is your boyfriend and your girlfriend does not owe you her body either. You don’t deserve to be loved because you’re good looking. You don’t “deserve” respect because you are older than this/that person. This doesn’t mean that culture and tradition should be forgotten and children should go around insulting and disrespecting elders but still, nobody owes you anything.

See Also: Dealing With Difficult Lecturers

It isn’t limited to just people and human relations but life in general as well. A lot of the time, I see people saying things like “ I don’t deserve to be….” or “I deserve to…” and it just leaves me wondering what exactly they have done to deserve that thing they keep on whining incessantly about. You sit around all day being lazy and doing nothing financially productive but you don’t deserve to be broke? You are intentionally antisocial and you push away everyone who comes to you but you feel you deserve to be in a happy relationship?

I may or may not wanna do this to you right now.

Life itself does not owe you anything. It’s unfair and there’s really not much you can do about it if we’re being honest. You don’t deserve anything that you haven’t worked for and you sure as hell won’t get it if you keep sitting on your buttocks and not doing anything towards that thing you want.

I could keep going on and on about all of these but I get the feeling that you already have the basic idea of what I’m trying to say.

There are a number of ways you could take care of your entitlement though…

I think the first basic way to do that is to understand that no one owes you anything. Not your parents. Not your partner. Not those little kids who don’t call you senior grandmaster lord of the seven seas as a sign of respect. Not your boss at work. Literally nobody owes you anything that you have not worked for. You could whine about it all night and day but it would not change that basic fact and by continuously expecting them to give a crap, you’d only be hurting yourself.

The second thing you have to do is to actually let go.

That sounds more crack induced than everything this monkey ever said.

You can’t hope to get rid of your entitlement if somewhere in your heart, you still want someone to do something for you because so so so. It’s one thing to understand the above and it’s another to make conscious effort to let go.


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Conclusion

I’m not some mental expert and I can’t promise you that what I’ve said is foolproof but what I can promise is that it is a constant work in progress. Overriding your emotions isn’t the easiest thing to do and as a result, it’d be hard convincing yourself not to get mad about this or that but if you stay at it persistently and make conscious effort towards it, I can promise you that you’d be a step closer to achieving it.

Anyway…

  • Did you enjoy the article?
  • What other ways do you think one can overcome entitlement that I didn’t mention?
  • What’s the worst case of someone being entitled that you’ve witnessed in the past?
  • When last did you tell someone about Irewole’s Blog?
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Benita
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Benita

Thumbs up 👍🏽
Nice article

Akachi
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Akachi

Wait, I just said two different things

Akachi
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Akachi

Lastly I feel like it’s a 50/50 situation because we don’t know where wanting good reasonable things stops and having to have good reasonable things starts. It just shows our moral decadence I guess, it shouldn’t really sound like entitlement to want good things . But what do I know 🤷

Akachi
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Akachi

Hii again, thanks for the post!! I don’t know why I felt like I had to answer all the questions accordingly, anyway🤓, this topic is such a big deal to me thanks for hitting the nail on the head. I also feel entitled once in a while because well, that’s just how it is🤷, like I expect someone I’ve been friends with for long to stay friends with me or be true to the relationship you get ( is this entitlement? I don’t know) especially if I’ve been a good friend too. Thanks for this 🙃

Akachi
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Akachi

Hiiiii, • yes, I liked the article • well, they/ we ( cause we are in this together) can overcome their/ our entitlement by not placing that much importance on themselves ( not that we’re not all important or anything) because we’reabout 7/9 billion in this world sooooo • it’s mostly with adults and kekes/ tricycles or public places. So I’m not pushing respect or regard for adults aside o but they tend to over do it. Eg excuse me ma I don’t HAVE to sit at the front sit of the Keke if I came first because you’re older… Read more »

Latifat
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Latifat

Okay…
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Mariam
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Mariam

you know no matter how people try to deny we all feel entitled one way or the other just because we help a friend by rendering assistance we feel this friend owes us something and in relationships too we all ignore the fact that despite being in a relationship we also have lives away from the relationships and so girls feel entitled to attention while guys in turn feel entitled to sex based on the attention or material things they had given to the girl

Lola
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Lola

Why do I have the feeling this is more based on relationships as in man and woman?? Irewole,if there’s an extra gist..plis I’m here

Thefeministpaper
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Secondly, you and your partner both made a choice to go into a relationship of whatever kind, the traditional monogamous relationship for example, you both are entitled to each other’s loyalty, honesty and communication. You are entitled to faithfulness and if the other person can’t grant that, you ste not responsible for it simply because you did your best in sustaining the relationship whereas your partner decided to step out. The disappointment that comes after you find out you were cheated on isn’t because you decided to be entitled to their loyalty, in your relationship you’d expect your partner to… Read more »

Thefeministpaper
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I think you’re wrong when you say our parents and partners do not owe us anything when in fact they do owe us. Your parents made a conscious decision to bring you into the world, so they had sex and procreated. I’m bringing us to the world, they automatically owe us shelter, food, clothing and education (these are the primary things we are entitled to) we are entitled to those things because we have no ability to provide or for ourselves and we didn’t choose to be brought into this world. They owe us that. They also owe us love… Read more »

Temi🐲
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Temi🐲

It seems you’re kinda misunderstanding his points between obligation and entitlement Let’s take the basic things a parent/parents ought to provide(keyword ‘ought’);its kinda saddening if the child is a product of parents who didn’t want to have him and gets abandoned The parents can take care of the child or abort the child or abandon the child if the abortion wasn’t successful The right thing to do is to care for the child obviously but the parents don’t have to cos they can do whatever the hell they want be it the right or wrong thing Either way their good… Read more »

The Skinny Ninja
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The Skinny Ninja

Yes! I can post comments now! It’s over for you

The Skinny Ninja
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The Skinny Ninja

You know when you said, “oh you want friends but you push everyone away and you’re antisocial”? Um yeah next time just @ me, because that is me ☺

Temi🐲
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Temi🐲

You killed it as usual SBB😺 and as for those who think they still want a more detailed insight into this entitlement shit;I recommend The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck by Mark Manson
And as for Rafiki,,is it just me that thinks monkey is a general term,,I mean💁

Weird_axis
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Weird_axis

Rafiki issa baboon man

Wise words being shared here

RestingBitchFace
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RestingBitchFace

Girls who feel entitled to their boyfriend’s money are just.. Ughhhhhhhhhh. Sister, if you want to buy hair of 45k, work and save towards it. Don’t come and stress the poor guy. He didn’t force you into the relationship. Why should he have to compensate you??

Brownie_vocal
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First off, Rafiki is a baboon not a monkey. I’m disrespected on his behalf.

Second, this generation is crawling with entitled people. Like the ones who expect that I’d write for them for free just because I know them. We’re not even close oooooo. Just a hi-hi relationship and they start ranting when I refuse to write for them for free.