Before starting this article, I first want to apologize for something I’ve allowed to repeat itself. I’m constantly asking you to leave a comment and like the real OG that you are, you always do. However, in spite of your best efforts, I have been leaving the comments unreplied. I am truly sorry about that. However, I want to promise you that I won’t make this a habit and if necessary, I’ll dedicate an entire day to replying all the comments.
Having said that, when I was in secondary school, I was a day student and to add icing to my cake, for quite a while, I stayed alone in my room. Those I might have shared a room with were not around because they were in school as well. So, I had my privacy. Now imagine my discomfort when I got into the university and I had to live with about three other guys.
At first, I thought it could work out but I was wrong. It pretty much drove me into depression and stood singlehandedly as one of the biggest reasons my first semester in school was horrible. One of them was comfortable leaving his boxers soaked in the bathroom for as long as humanly possible. Another one was okay leaving unwashed dishes in the sink until maggots started breeding there and the third thought it was funny to randomly pin you to the bed and give you the worst rape scare of your life.If it comes to having bad roommates, my gee, I have been there.
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These people weren’t necessarily horrible, they just contrasted my lifestyle wildly and I found it all too depressing. If like I did, you need to learn how to cope with difficult roommates, you might wanna read the following:
1. Set Ground Rules
A great man, by name, Zlatan Kapaichumarimarichupaco, once said that where there is no rule, there is no sin. In a lot of cases, the reason someone keeps pissing you off is because they don’t know that it’s actually pissing you off. One of the best pieces of advice I can give you is to set some ground rules.Have a honest conversation with your roommates and tell them the things you’d like and the things that you wouldn’t. Don’t make it one sided though. There should be a balance and as such, you have to allow them table their wants and preferences as well. That way, you all know what one likes and what the other doesn’t and you can find ways around it. Of course, there are still those that are just about as stubborn as a goat on steroids.
2. Talk About Issues As Soon As They Come Up
Chances are that you’re probably ignoring all those crappy things your roommate is doing. You keep thinking “okay, next time she uses my bra to blow her nose, I’ll definitely give her a piece of my mind” and when she does, you think it again without actually doing anything.This might help keep things “peaceful” in a manner of speaking but it doesn’t exactly do a lot of good for your mental health as you would be keeping in a lotta anger and irritation. So, when you see your roommate doing something you don’t like, approach them gently, not accusingly, not passive-aggressively, approach them gently. Tell them how you feel about it and be as diplomatic as possible.
3. Don’t Retaliate
Yes, yes, it would be fun to shave your armpit, sprinkle it in their container of garri and then use the last bucket of water available to flush your pee in the toilet when they have to be in school by 8am but think about it, is that really what you want? I mean, it’s what I want but wouldn’t you want peace to reign in your room?If you do want peace to reign, then I would strongly advise that you don’t retaliate.
No matter what they do. It is difficult but fighting crap with more crap doesn’t eliminate the first crap that was there, it basically just leaves more crap lying around and when people walk in and the first thing they see is all your crap, they get their shit together and walk out. So, rather than retaliate, do literally anything else on this list.
4. Take Action
Some people are stubborn. Some people are walking, talking, living, breathing stubbornness in human form who wouldn’t listen even if you put a gun to their testicles. As such, you have to actually do something about it if you want your freedom and peace of mind.
When things are getting too hard for you to handle, call your hostel manager, your porter or anyone at all in a position of authority on such matters and ask for a change of room/roommate or something. It might seem extreme but if you’ve ever had someone who brings over their potentially dangerous friend/partner all the time and to the point where they start seeming like your roommate, you would understand where I am coming from.
5. Be Tolerant
I won’t drag this one on for too long. You can’t change some people. You can’t always change your hostel. You can’t always change your roommate. The best thing you can do in some cases is just to be tolerant. Remind yourself occasionally that situations are temporary and this demon from the pit of hell who keeps letting your toothbrush fall into the toilet won’t live with your forever.
Having a roommate can be hard and it could work out well in your favour too. Especially if you’re not willing to get a place to yourself, it’s hard to decide which direction the odds would swing but hopefully, after this, you’re a little bit more educated on how to work around it.
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