Back in my secondary school days (I’m old enough to say that now shey?), there was this particular teacher that I could have sworn hated me. Most adults would probably come at me with the “he did it because he loved you” line but I seriously still believe the man hated me. He was the type of person who’d flog you for sneezing too loudly/often in his class and then come back to tell you later on that he did it because he’s trying to train you to be a good person.
I remember it like it was two years ago (not yesterday… nobody likes cliché). I was standing in line at the morning assembly when the man came to inspect the SS3 students’ dressing. I had on my tie, shirt, trousers and (relatively polished) shoes. Everything was in order and when he passed beside me, I bowed and greeted. Instead of replying, he basically told me to shut up and started talking about how little respect our generation has. I have never been more confused in my life…
I’ve also had a fair share of bad experiences with university lecturers but I won’t be telling you about those here because lowkey, I’m scared they’ll find me and my CGPA would wave at the Titanic on its way down.
It’s gotten to the stage where I actually think that some of these lecturers are just really angry people who want someone to take their anger out on. It’s sad though that this is how they are and even sadder still that they probably would continue to be like with nothing much that we can do about it. I mean, just imagine someone getting mad at you for the littlest things!
For those reasons, I decided to write this right here because I’m sure you’re probably going through it too. You can’t beat them but you can cope with ‘em.
1. Understand Them
If you’re in the university, chances are that you have one lecturer that’s giving you issues. If you don’t, I’m all too happy to announce to you that you most likely will. One of the things to do would be to actually try to understand them. Instead of just breezing into their office or interrupting the class with questions every time you feel like it, take your time to study the lecturer and find out what he/she likes.
Some lecturers like being asked questions in the middle of a lecture while some find interruptions very annoying. Some lecturers are okay with you entering their office when you want while some might want you to book an appointment beforehand or something in that vein. Before taking a step with these type of people, find out what makes their bomb go off. I can’t tell you how much trouble I saved myself just by learning to shut the hell up with lecturers.
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2. Follow Their Rules
A lot of people in our generation want to be non-conformists and why the heck not? It’s totally awesome for you to disobey rules and regulations and make the society a little bit worse because it makes you look cooler. However, if you are looking to get a degree or at least pass a course, you might want to tone that down a little bit. By “a little bit”, I mean to the point of nonexistence.
He wants you to come to class early? Do so. She wants you to keep quiet during classes? Do so. He wants you to wear five layers of clothing to cover your entire body because he doesn’t like indecent dressing? Do so… but if you have heat stroke, it’s not my fault. Point is, play by the rules.
3. Don’t Try To Be The Hero/Smart Guy
It’s fun doing the opposite of the things above but last last, it’ll get you in trouble. Robert Greene said something to that effect in his “48 Laws of Power”. You might want to prove your intellectual strength when your lecturer is wrong or show how much you’ve read but for real, you shouldn’t be doing any of that.
A lot of people have issues with this. It’s why people feel threatened by their juniors and why they might even end up firing them. Always remember to make them feel smarter than you. It seems stupid but a lot of people can’t handle the fact that some people know something that they don’t.
There are times and places when you can prove your worth and show what you can do but not to people who will get mad and potentially hurt you if they feel threatened by you.
In spite of all these, it is likely that somehow, some way, you would still have issues with one person sha! At this point, I think the best advice I can offer is that you work on yourself so their antics don’t get to you… too much.
It’s hard coping with people like them but in the end, you control to a large extent how you feel and if you don’t want to go through all that stress, just be like me and ghost throughout your university years. Come to class and never get noticed by any lecturer. Been working out pretty well for me so far.
- What did you think of the article?
- What was your shittiest experience with a lecturer?
- How have you been coping with these people who are just trying to make our lives miserable?